AROUND BOISE Q & A
(Answers for Your Soul and Spirit Survival)
QUESTION: July 4, 2023
I was asked this week, by a person whose family keeps ‘hounding‘ them to return to their false religion worship: “How Do You Keep Good Relations With Family While Pursuing Jesus”? In other words Jesus and family relations — how does that work? How does it look — Jesus and family relations?
There is no way for you to keep good relations with family (family relations or anyone else) who is pulling on you to disobey Jesus Christ — which means to destroy yourself, your very own soul and spirit forever.
Bottom Line: There is no way to keep good family relations with anyone who is in a subtle way asking you to destroy yourself!
Unless the family menber wants to know Jesus like you do … Jesus and family relations just don’t work well or don’t work at all.
Except a family member confess and repent of their sins ( as you have been required by Jesus to do), all attempts to have “good” family relations must be thrown out of your goals. The most yu can hope for is “cordial” family relations. Make your goal to try to save them from the damnation pending upon “every” sinner.
Jesus knew this worry about family would be in our hearts and He loved us by warning us that we would have this to overcome. He commanded us that trying to do both — keeping friendly interactions with family while departing from their opinions, patterns of relating, or thoughts about Jesus Christ and worshiping Him as God — will divide your heart.
Jesus KNEW that our emotions over family will be “the” constant distraction Satan uses for your downfall and you WILL fall away from Jesus Christ and His eternal salvation of you because of your love for flesh and blood.
Sorry, I know it hurts one’s flesh feelings, to hear this, but we ALL face this and there is no other way — JESUS said.
Jesus, also, said “the flesh profits NOTHING” — John 6:63.
It is only the Holy Spirit that gives you life. Maintain reality with the Holy Spirit. Maintain unity with the Holy Spirit. Unite your emotions with whatever the Spirit of Jesus Christ is doing between you and Him. Stop giving your “flesh”, or anyone else of flesh, the priority in your life.
In every page on this site, JESUS is alerting you to the spiritual abilities and powers of Satan to (literally) perform a slow seduction on you that persuades you to disobey and leave Jesus to please people.
YOU OWE NO PERSON ANYTHING WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR Soul. GET THAT DOWN INSIDE YOU DEEPLY. Root and ground that reality in your heart and mind. Make it your chief weapon against the powers of the Evil one.
Jesus explained the powers of Satan to use “family” as the most dangerous and successful tactic against your soul. This is why Jesus warned — straight up front– that except we hate (not emotional hate, but meaning choice and selection of what you have appetite for) father and mother, children, wife (husband) — we cannot be His:
26If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. 27And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple. 28For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
This hate is not evil hate in your heart toward anyone. Jesus would never command that, but this kind of hate is about priority when selecting between to choices — whether you “reject” them and cling to Jesus’ will for you or reject Jesus and cling to your flesh family’s will for you (or a member of your flesh family). He forsook everything He wanted in order to save you and me. We are not worthy to be His if we are not willing to do so for Him.
To break and destroy the power-hold Satan has on a human heart, mind, or body takes GREATER power than human will and reasoning. The greater power is JESUS working repentance in the human heart. His gracious help empowers you to do it. THAT KIND OF REPENTANCE hurts. You cannot come as you are by “keeping old or existing relationships” as-is because repentance costs, just as it cost Jesus the cross to provide a means to wash us from our sins. You cannot “just ask God to forgive you” and continue as-is because repentance COSTS. You must prove to Satan that you forsake your old life with him and take up life with Jesus Christ or Satan will hound you through people for the rest of your life!
Repentance hurts because you will have to give up the “spiritual world of Satan that you were living in” — that means family relationships change or go, friends change or go, activities change or go and NOBODY but Jesus can draw any of us to pay the costs of repentance. Repentance is not “I’m sorry” – repentance is making an absolute CHANGE. It is not doing better — it is the POWER OF GOD that destroys your previous evil-influenced mental state. This truth has always been the Gospel.
By His miracle power as our Creator (with the God-the Father and the Holy Spirit) Jesus will give you NEW relationships with persons who are loyal to Him. Wait for those individuals. The first new relationship He gives is a new pastor (Ephesians 4:11-16). In their season of time, He makes every new relationship fulfill His will in your life.
JESUS, also, removes the loneliness you might be tempted to feel because your “flesh” is accustomed to the presence of people you had to forsake, although you loved them. They can always repent and return to you, but you must not relinquish loyalty to Jesus to return to the old relationships you had with them — which included constant pulls on you to disobey Jesus. It must become a new relationship that Jesus births with those persons, where He is the LORD of all things pertaining to it.
It is worth all you will suffer or miss away from them to have un-distracted fellowship and power with Jesus Christ, our Lord. Be encouraged … and sever ties with anyone that hounds you to disobey your Lord. Hounding you is not always bold and direct requests to do what Jesus commands you not to do. Some hounding is done more quietly and sneakily by pulling you into participation with them in things you don’t want or have made known to them that you don’t want. Build a new life that does not include them in habits and patterns you formerly had in your life such as talking, visiting, associating at regular days and times, and worshiping with them. You must choose Jesus or them. There is no other way.
P. S. At the Lord’s command, I’ve had no relationship with my own biological family since 2010 and a former husband since 2018. You can do it by your greater love for Jesus than for them, and by the power of His mighty Holy Spirit working inside your heart and mind, and even working upon your flesh feelings like a shield! As explained above, family members whose influence tempts you away from obedience to Jesus can always change and be reconciled to you, but you must not change on the things Jesus required that caused the separations in the first place.
Encouragement For Those “Hounded” By Family To Return To False Worship
29 And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel’s,
30 But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.
31 But many that are first shall be last; and the last first.
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